Someone very close to me often talks about how her unhappiness is caused by her family and friends. She feels that they do not treat her as they should. I often remind her that although she may be right in wanting others to treat her with more respect, she is wrong in letting their actions determine her happiness. My advice to her? "Stop being the victim!" Too many people give up on life, their hopes and dreams because of the "victim mentality". I say, "Take ownership of your feelings and your life". A person may not be able to control circumstances. But they do have the power to control their responses to these situations. Empower yourself. Get the ball rolling. Don't let what others say or do be the determining factor of your success or failure.